‘Stop choosing sides when there is no side to choose,’ she wrote on Instagram
Mom-of-three Christina Anstead shared a very personal post on Instagram about the need to find her footing as a woman and mother during what she calls an “incredibly isolating” year.
It seems the Flip or Flop star was talking about the isolation because of both the coronavirus pandemic and her separation from husband Ant Anstead, who she officially filed divorce paperwork from this week, according to Fox News. Christina posted a selfie wearing a sweatshirt and jeans alongside a raw, emotional caption.
“This year has been incredibly isolating,” she wrote. “Activities like church, travel, dinner, movies, sports- canceled. No longer seeing my friends smiling faces on set (all covered by masks) it all feels like shit. So many changes for so many people. So despite what you see on Instagram most people are struggling.”
Christina shares daughter Taylor, 10, and son Brayden, 5, with ex-husband and Flip or Flop co-host Tarek El Moussa. She and Ant share 1-year-old son Hudson.
“When I get told ‘you must be an absent mother because you are not with your kids’ – smh wake up people,” she wrote. “I hardly post anymore … and I def do not want to post my kids every freaking day to make it a contest of who’s a better parent f that. This doesn’t mean I’m not with my kids – it means the opposite – I am with them- I’m present.”
It’s refreshing to see a celebrity not posting every five minutes about their personal lives. Of course, it’s always fun to get a sneak peak into the lives of the famous, but it should never be used as a platform to “prove” anything — especially how much time you spend with your kids. Being divorced and not seeing your kids full-time is hard enough; no one needs to be judged on top of it.
Earlier this year, Christina also opened up about being divorced and feeling judged.
“I never thought I would have one divorce let alone two,” Christina wrote. “I never thought I would have 2 baby daddies – but sometimes life throws us curve balls. Instead of getting stuck in these ‘setbacks’ I choose to look at these challenges as opportunities to grow. So while some may judge me and throw around rumors about me, most of you support me. And that says a lot about this world and where we are headed.”
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For those of you who don’t know me (or think you know me) let me reintroduce myself. I hate crowds, I love traveling, all things spiritual, the ocean and deep one on one conversations. I never thought about being on tv. I wanted to be a sports agent like Jerry Maguire. But I always loved looking at houses with my parents especially model homes and I always wanted to be my own boss… So in college when I was called (intuitively) to get my real estate license at a local community college I followed my intuition. I got started in real estate at 21 which led to selling houses which led to flipping houses which led to Tv. Now while I never wanted to be on tv, stepping out of my comfort zone and into the unknown has always been my thing. I live in a state of anxiousness and I’m so used to it that when it’s not there I tend to feel a void and hop into something that causes the feeling I’m used to. This can be good and bad. And it’s one of the things I’m working on breaking the pattern of. Sometimes anxiety and pursuit of new dreams leads me down amazing paths, other times it leaves me feeling lost and in a state of fight or flight / or crying in my closet. Tv changed my life and I am grateful for the life it’s provided, the experiences, the friends I’ve made along the way. Sometimes our calling is bigger than our plans. I never thought I would have one divorce let alone two. I never thought I would have 2 baby daddies – but sometimes life throws us curve balls. Instead of getting stuck in these “setbacks” I choose to look at these challenges as opportunities to grow. So while some may judge me and throw around rumors about me, most of you support me. And that says a lot about this world and where we are headed. I’m messy, I’m real and I’m working on healing. I’m surrounded by extremely powerful women who help me cope, build me up and push me to be better. If you’ve DM me or text me – I haven’t written back because I’m taking time to clear the “noise” and focus on myself and the kids. I appreciate the support and I hope my story inspires you to not be so hard on yourself for the decisions / choices you’ve made. We are all a work in progress. ✨♥️
Christina continued, asking people to remember she and every other person on social media is just that, a person.
“Stop parent shaming people, stop choosing sides when there is no side to choose,” she said. “My point being – when you see stuff on here take it all with a grain of salt. There is a whole lot of Filters and fake smiles. I’ve been guilty of faking it too. We are all struggling – some of us are just better at ‘masking’ it.”