You know the way some teenagers simply can’t wait to show 21 to allow them to drink? Yeah, I wasn’t a kind of youngsters. When I turned 21, alcohol wasn’t the very first thing I thought of. Hell, now that I’m nearly 30, I nonetheless don’t give it some thought usually. Sometimes I am going to an occasion with an open bar, and I ask for a soda. Which I suppose for some might be type of surprising since I run an Entertainment website referred to as Popcorn and Tequila? But consuming simply isn’t an enormous deal for me.
And it has so much to do with my household’s historical past with consuming.
I’ve by no means actually advised anybody this, however earlier than I used to be born, my dad was a heavy drinker. I’m unsure if he was an alcoholic or not, partially as a result of I’m too scared to even ask, however I keep in mind my mother admitting that that’s why he has so many youngsters. She mentioned one thing alongside the strains of, he’d drink, after which he’d go be with XYZ. And that made me understand that yeah … he was most likely an alcoholic. P.S. — Don’t fear, “XYZ” was earlier than my mother, in case you’re questioning what sort of loopy childhood I had.
One day, I’ll ask, however to be sincere, my dad’s not the one one who had (or ought to I say has) a consuming downside in our household, so I really feel like I don’t really have to.
I’ve seen my uncles drink closely. My cousin and half brother are just about alcoholics, though nobody will really admit it or say the phrase out loud.
So, rising up, I noticed my fair proportion of alcohol-fueled fuckery. And whereas I’m lucky sufficient to have by no means been harmed by anybody, simply seeing what alcohol does to others is sufficient.
Since alcoholism “runs in the family” I have a tendency to remain away from it.
I imply, I drink, however solely sometimes, like if I’m out with associates or if I’m celebrating one thing. Rarely ever alone, and by no means once I’m in a foul temper. Specifically due to my household’s previous, and the way straightforward it’s to make use of medication as an escape.
I’m self-aware sufficient to know that alcohol as an escape from my issues, or present unhealthy temper, doesn’t really repair my issues, so I keep away from it, in concern that at some point, I’ll flip into an alcoholic, like a few of my relations, who I do know turned to alcohol on account of stress.
If we’re being all the way in which sincere right now, I’ve had a bottle of tequila for over a yr that’s nonetheless not completed but.
It simply principally sits right here and collects mud. And it’s good tequila, don’t get me incorrect, however theres’s actually no have to drink each dang day simply to complete it, or simply as a result of it’s round. So it sits, and it waits for me to lastly decide it up once more and blend it with some lemonade.
However, I don’t simply keep away from booze due to my household’s historical past. Alcohol additionally makes me drained. So by the point my child is in mattress and I can have a glass of wine, there’s actually no level in me consuming. Unless I plan on not waking up on time the subsequent day.
So when my older brother makes enjoyable of me as a result of this tequila bottle nonetheless isn’t empty but, I shrug it off. Make enjoyable of me all you need, however I’m nonetheless not gonna drink that factor any quicker. Hell, the one purpose it’s nearly empty is as a result of he drinks it when he comes round. *ahem* See, the alcoholic tendencies are sturdy round right here.
Which is why I’m proud to say, that as somebody who drinks, I’ve NEVER had a hangover. Yup, I’ve by no means been “drunk drunk.” I’ve no downside going out with associates, having a drink, after which calling it quits as soon as my physique has had sufficient.
That buzz you get when consuming isn’t an amazing feeling for me. It’s most likely why I’ve by no means had a hangover. As quickly as I really feel a buzz kicking in, I’m begging somebody for a glass of water and dying for some chilly air. I’ve been identified to stroll house from events so I might take in as a lot chilly air as attainable, and by the point I lastly get in, I’m sober.
I cease once I understand it’s time to cease. Regardless of who thinks I shouldn’t, or what folks say.
Peer strain is a b*tch, however I’m not HER b*tch, so I’ve no downside saying no.
Which is why, with regards to questioning why folks don’t drink … I simply don’t.
Over the final 20+ years on this planet we name Earth, I’ve realized that not solely does “everything happen for a reason,” but in addition that individuals do issues for a purpose, whether or not they admit it to you or not.
So questioning why a few of my associates drink and why some don’t isn’t my forte, as a result of what? You don’t HAVE to be in restoration to not drink. You don’t must be an alcoholic, or have an issue, to say no to booze. For some, alcohol could make them indignant, anxious, or drained, and never everybody likes the way in which they really feel after consuming.
Some individuals are combating household points they don’t converse on.
And it’s not my place to guage anybody for not partaking in issues simply because I do them.
So the subsequent time somebody says they don’t really feel like consuming, or they don’t drink in any respect — don’t take a look at them like they’ve 4 heads! Honor their power to say no to see strain, and hold it shifting. Don’t make it an enormous deal, and don’t ask why … until you’re associates and genuinely curious, as a result of typically the reply isn’t so simple as “I just don’t want to.”